Garcelle Beauvais Discusses Her Divorce & How She Discovered Her Husband’s Infidelity
Divorce is one of those things that you would never wish on someone because the pain of it can stay with you for a long time. In an effort to share her story, actress Garcelle Beauvais blogged for People magazine about her experience and the trials and lessons she experienced along the way.
I have to commend her for sharing her story. Garcelle shares it all, from finding out about her husband’s infidelity, to her angry email she sent out to his coworkers and associates to it to where she is in her life now. So often you see stories of divorce being something like the end but it is just a transitional stage to a different journey in life. Read her story, when you continue…
I’m so happy to share some insight into my life lessons — some sad, many fun — throughout the next few months. But what I want most is to (hopefully) inspire you.
In 2010, I had everything I had always wanted. I had been happily married to my husband for nearly a decade. Because we had struggled with infertility for several years, we had a profound appreciation for our adorable twin sons, Jax and Jaid.
I was watching an entertainment show about Sandra Bullock and her unfaithful husband, and I thought, “How did she not know?” Well, it happens. In fact, it happened to me. And I had absolutely no idea.
You see, I thought I had won the lotto in husbands. Caring? Check. Attentive? Check. Loyal? Well, un-check.
It only took one text message to change my life. That’s when I discovered my loving husband had been unfaithful. His infidelities ended our marriage.
The shock was like a freight train hitting me. The pain was unimaginable. I couldn’t breathe. I wanted to exit my body like a character in a cartoon.
I had so many questions. What happens next? Do I stay for the sake of the kids? Do I stay because, well, that’s what some women do? And oh my God, what do I do with all of this anger?
This wasn’t my first rodeo. Unfortunately, I’m no stranger to divorce. My parents split up when I was 3 years old, and I lived with my mother. (In those days, you lived with one parent, and I didn’t see my dad throughout most of my childhood.)
Then, my first marriage to Oliver’s father didn’t work out. But I still clung to my dream of having an intact family. I wanted it more than anything.
I realized part of my self-esteem was tied to being a wife. But ultimately, I made the decision to leave my marriage. It was especially tough because I adored the idea of a whole family — but I love my children way more than I hate his betrayal.
With the help of therapy, time and some books that gave me the courage to face my pain, I found a way to cope with my divorce. More importantly, my ex and I put our love for our children above everything else. We have even come to a place where we can hang out together with our boys to make sure they have a solid, stable upbringing.
Read the rest here.
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