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If You Want Your Man To Listen—Don’t Hit Him Where It Hurts

Posted by on Jun 11, 2010 in Relationships | 4 comments

How To Fight Your Man

Couple Arguing If You Want Your Man To Listen   Dont Hit Him Where It Hurts

I’ve always struggled with when to confront my previous boyfriends about things that bothered me or when to just leave well enough alone. Though most would say I’m not much of a “daily” nagger, I’ve also been notorious for turning into a pit bull when I feel I’ve been crossed by my man. So, how do you choose which things to argue about? And yes, I said argue.  None of us are under the delusion that arguments don’t exist in relationships—even healthy ones.  You don’t have to cut him, but you will disagree. And if the topic of disagreement is a passionate one, you will doggone argue.

Keep your empty threats to yourself. While you keeping crying wolf, one day he might just bite and leave YOU.

There isn’t a single person who can tell you all the things you should fight about or leave alone. All of our standards and desires vary based on our upbringing, social influences, religious or cultural beliefs or just our personalities in general. So, even though no one can really tell you what’s important or unimportant to you, there is a definitive WAY to get your point across. And ladies, that WAY does not include 1. Emasculating your man 2. Threatening to leave him 3. Constant screaming, yelling and cursing.

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Pack Your Bags, It’s Time To Leave Him

Posted by on May 27, 2010 in Celebrity News, Relationships, Sharron Todd | 8 comments

Part 4 of 4: How to Leave a Cheater

angela bassett waiting l1 Pack Your Bags, Its Time To Leave Him

Do I think people are perfect? Absolutely not.  Do I think that people can slip up and make mistakes? Absolutely.  But I’ve never, and never will categorize cheating as a mistake.  It takes a concerted effort and a conscious choice to take another woman home, undress her and then yourself, lie down, get physical, lie and keep secrets.  For all the biological reasons, the philosophical excuses and the social justifications that have been force fed to generations of jaded women—cheating on someone comes down to a choice.

Leaving someone you love is difficult. No one expects that you’re a robot programmed to leave as soon as your partner cheats.  But hopefully there is enough love of yourself to give you the energy to get up and go when someone shows they can’t be trusted in your relationship.

First, start with your toothbrush.  Yep, your toothbrush. 

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EXCLUSIVE Tweets: Is There A Tiny & Toya Beef?

Posted by on May 13, 2010 in Celebrity Beef, Celebrity News, Relationships, Rumor Control, TV Shows | 9 comments

tiny toya 1 EXCLUSIVE Tweets: Is There A Tiny & Toya Beef? The answer is NO! Last season I wrote a few behind the scenes exclusives regarding  drama between Joy Bounds (Life Jennings ex), Tameka Tiny Cottle, and Toya Carter. Joy Bounds basically accused Tiny and Toya of stealing her reality show idea, amongst other things (read back story here). Tiny contacted me to set the record straight but the interview didn’t happen due to some “scheduling” reasons.

Yesterday, I  received another tip regarding some jealousy and beef brewing between Tiny and Toya over the fact that Toya received her own TV show, while Tiny was left out. The reason I ran last season’s story is because I felt there was some validity to Joy Bound’s claims. The reason I will NOT run this new story is because someone is trying knock the pedestal from under Tiny & Toya, and I do NOT want to be apart of that. I respect black women branding themselves and becoming a business, a business not dependent on a man, or a famous ex. So, I’m actually happy that Antonia Carter has created her own path.

Anyway, I received some exclusive tweets that Tiny wrote regarding Toya. These tweets were sent as evidence that Tiny is jealous of Toya, and Toya wouldn’t be anything if it wasn’t for Tiny.

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Again, If He Walks Like A Duck, Quacks Like A Duck: Then He’s a Cheater.

Posted by on May 7, 2010 in Relationships, Sharron Todd | 5 comments

Walks Like a Duck, Quacks Like a Duck:  He’s a Cheater

black man cheating Again, If He Walks Like A Duck, Quacks Like A Duck: Then He’s a Cheater.

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I dated this man after about 8 years of knowing him. We went to college together, were only ever friends and had a lot in common. It seemed like basic mathematics that we’d be a good match. While I was basking in the idea that he was a good communicator, I absolutely overlook him COMMUNICATING to me that he had a slew of women in college and after college (or that he joked that he’d make a good pimp). I felt special (and maybe even set apart from other women) because he shared information that I thought he’d only share with the boys.

On my birthday, he went missing, and after several calls I got nothing. The excuse I got the next day was that he left his phone at home and couldn’t call.  But, when I later found home-made sex videos that he had made with other several other women, I can’t say that I was completely shocked. My mouth dropped to the floor (along with my heart)… but shocked, not completely. Only then did I start to replay the things that he said to me and his actions on a day to day basis, etc.  Then I remembered someone telling me before, “Listen to a man when he’s trying to tell you who he is.”

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Why Men Cheat: Straight From The Mouths Of Men by Sharron Todd

Posted by on Apr 20, 2010 in Relationships, Sharron Todd | 76 comments

Part II:  Hear it Straight From Them:  “Why do Men Cheat?”

“A man’s guilt extends as far as the pain he causes his lover, NOT in the actions.  If the deed never comes to light, then neither does the remorse or the incentive to not do it again.”

black men cheating Why Men Cheat: Straight From The Mouths Of Men by Sharron Todd

Instead of saturating the little space that I have with my own commentary, here’s a straight up list of the top 15 reasons why men say they cheat. What’s more important in this piece is that you all share your thoughts on their reasons.  So, leave a comment and we’ll discuss it.

In no particular order:

1. “In my opinion, I think that a lot of men are as faithful as their options. Tiger Woods the pro golfer/billionaire had access to almost any and everything he wanted, including a lot of women throwing themselves at him…hence more options.” I believe that’s why you find a lot of politicians, athletes, musicians and people with money (power) cheating more.

2. “In many ways, I think men are predisposed to cheating because of our biology. Men can reproduce far more frequently than women, so there’s this primordial impulse to spread our seed.  Women on the other hand are born with all the eggs they’ll ever have and thus far more selective in choosing a mate.”

3. “I needed something to stroke my ego and she wasn’t doing it anymore…I turned to my options.”

4. “The reasons men cheat are as varied as the women they cheat on. While no two cases are exactly alike, I think that it is safe to say that men cheat for the same reason women do: because they’re unhappy.”

5. “In my lil’ Nigerian opinion, men cheat cause they WANT TO. Period.”

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All Men Cheat! Get Over It…by Sharron Todd

Posted by on Apr 9, 2010 in Relationships, Sharron Todd | 23 comments

PART I:  All Men Cheat. Expect and Accept It

STD MGV All Men Cheat! Get Over It...by Sharron Todd

A friend of mine that I used to date off-and-on for several years, asked me to marry him. Well, kind of. He’s been in the music industry for about 20 years now and he has seen and probably done it all.  So he says to me, “There’s a reason you and I have known each other for 10 years. We can be married by next year if you can grow up and just accept that from time to time I’ll have a little bit of fun on the side. But just remember, I’ll be coming home to you.”  Not his exact words, but almost verbatim.  So, I’m thinking, really?  Aww, I feel really special! Can I really be your wife? Do you promise?  Come on.

Actually, after laughing what people close to me call my “machine gun” laugh (the kind of laughter where your entire body shakes and you could possibly be having an epileptic seizure), I said, “maybe in another life, when honesty and loyalty mean absolutely nothing to me.”

It’s great that we can both laugh about it. Because he has been so up front over the years, we’ve been able to remain friends.  Do you know why? He gave me a choice.  He told me what it is, and I opted out. My problem is when men want to keep their partners, lie, cheat and then sometimes turn it on women and our “obvious lack of understanding” about how they operate.

Should you expect your man to cheat? Maybe.

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