I have had my share of grief because people feel like I favor Chris Brown, thus I support domestic violence. Not sure how they come to that leap, but those are the accusation many of us who have asked the media to slow down and be fair, have received. I don’t condone domestic violence against women, or against men. I don’t think anyone no matter how weak they are should hit anyone else. (Glad we got that out the way).
Behind the scenes there is a war of truths going on, and it has been ignited with Rihanna’s interview with Diane Sawyer. The problem is that there is a big “gap” and huge “hole” between the time that Rihanna admits to finding a text message that proved Chris Brown was cheating, until the time Chris Brown started assaulting her. All Rihanna has said about that gap is that it escalated, but she doesn’t say how it escalated. Chris closest friends maintains that he is a good guy, and that Rihanna “knows” what she did during this “gap” in the story, and that it was completely foul and will certainly turn public opinion against her. Friends of both parties just want Rihanna to tell the “whole” story. So many people in Chris Brown’s camp want to speak out so bad that they have taken to twitter of all places to defend him:
In the history of their relationship, Chris Brown has not initiated a violent act against Rihanna. Each time a situation of violence has occurred, it was initiated by Rihanna and Chris Brown has always managed to control or redirect his anger.
People who claim to be closest to Chris Brown say the Rihanna interview was a media stunt, and that she was forced by her handlers to say certain things in the interview to restore her career, and to destroy that of Chris Brown. They also maintain the truth will come out oneday. I don’t know what’s true, but I do know the year began with Chris Brown and Rihanna and the year will end with Chris Brown and Rihanna.
Please Note: Chris Brown has taken full responsibility for the assault, and has not charged Rihanna with any wrongdoing. He has chosen to not talk about any of the details that lead to the assault. I don’t know if that was for legal reasons, or out of love for Rihanna.
Usher and Tameka’s divorce is final. I wish them both the best in their future endeavors, and that they will come together amicably for the kids. You can click here to see the paperwork. I believe they both had good intentions, but had a lot of obstacles stack against them from the beginning. Not exciting news, but a chapter closed.
That’s embarrassing that that’s the type of person that I fell in love with. So far in love. So unconditional that I went back. It’s humiliating to say this happened. To accept that? It’s a traumatizing experience.
You listen to this interview it will put some things in perspective for you. I always say, we behind the blogs get so wrapped up in the story that we forget there are actual human behind the celebrity. I must say I am so proud of Rihanna for finally speaking out, it’s always better late than never, and not only does she speak out, she seems quite honest and forthcoming. This interview is more detailed than what inside “sources” lead us to believe (almost made drop a tear). Although she doesn’t go into great detail, in part two she says a lot more about that night than what Chris Brown had to say. I am still suspect that her team decided to speak out before an upcoming album, it would have meant a lot more to me, if the interview wasn’t linked to a promotion. But like I said late, it’s always better than never…
It’s completely normal to go back. It’s not right. I learned the hard way, but again, this is what I want people to know. When I realized that my selfish decision for love could result in some young girl getting killed, I could not be easy with that part. I couldn’t be held responsible for going back.Even if Chris never hit me again, who is to say that their boyfriend won’t? Who’s to say that they won’t kill these girls? These are young girls and I just didn’t realize how much of an impact I had on these girls’ lives until that happened.
Surprise, Surprise the Kardashians reality fake! NBA baller, Rasha McCants, claims he was framed by Khloe Kardashion and her sister sidekick Kourtney Kardashian on their reality show, Kourtney and Khloe in Miami. Rasha claims that the show staged a break-up between him and Khloe, and Page Six of the NY Post has the details:
The shooting guard said Khloe and sister Kourtney, who claimed he cheated on Khloe, “made the whole thing up.” McCants said a “Kourtney and Khloe Take Miami” episode — where they were seen hacking into McCants’ voice mail and listening to suggestive phone messages apparently left for him by a female fan — was staged. He said the curvy sisters did not have his current phone number and he and Khloe “had already called it quits” in January, before the segment was even taped. Meanwhile, Khloe wasted no time finding herself another NBA star to play ball — she wed the LA Lakers’ Lamar Odom in September, after a monthlong romance. Not surprisingly, the reality show cameras caught every moment. Reps for E! and Khloe did not return calls or e-mails for comment. [Source]
Rihanna first interview regarding the assault has just been released. In an interview with Glamour Magazine, she talks about her career, her personal life, and the embarrassing moments that began the night before the Grammy’s, specifically the infamous assault, and the photo leaks. As I told you yesterday, she will not talk about the details of that night for legal purposes, but she does touch on how that night changed her. Rihanna will be honored by Glamour Magazine at Women of the Year on Monday at Carnegie Hall in NYC. (I am so happy she spoke out, I just didn’t want this to be swept under the rug, without addressing the young fans. I’m going to ignore the fact that she has an album coming out, and believe in my heart that she has done this because she felt it was time…)
Glamour: Let’s talk about this past year—you’ve obviously been through some difficult things. How did the people around you help you cope?
Rihanna: My friends and family have been extremely supportive, and everyone has been there for me. But at some point you are there alone. It’s a lonely place to be—no one can understand. That’s when you get close to God.
Glamour: Are you referring to the [Chris Brown] incident?
Rihanna: I am talking about starting with the night [before] the Grammys and then on. That was not the only thing that occurred this year. The picture leaking…it was one thing after another.
Glamour: You’re talking about the photo [reportedly of Rihanna’s injured face taken by police after Brown assaulted her] that was allegedly leaked by cops. You handled that so well; you kept silent in the press.
Rihanna: It was humiliating; that is not a photo you would show to anybody. I felt completely taken advantage of. I felt like people were making it into a fun topic on the Internet, and it’s my life. I was disappointed, especially when I found out the photo was [supposedly leaked by] two women.
Glamour: How has this event changed you as a person, as a woman?
Rihanna: I’m stronger, wiser and more aware. You don’t realize how much your decisions affect people you don’t even know, like fans.
Glamour: If you could offer a message to the millions of young women who look up to you, what would you tell someone who found herself in a similar situation?
Rihanna: Domestic violence is a big secret. No kid goes around and lets people know their parents fight. Teenage girls can’t tell their parents that their boyfriend beat them up. You don’t dare let your neighbor know that you fight. It’s one of the things we [women] will hide, because it’s embarrassing. My story was broadcast all over the world for people to see, and they have followed every step of my recovery. The positive thing that has come out of my situation is that people can learn from that. I want to give as much insight as I can to young women, because I feel like I represent a voice that really isn’t heard. Now I can help speak for those women.
Glamour: Is it too early for you to think, I want to be in love, I want to have a family? Is that too far down the road?
Rihanna: I hope I find love in the next 10 years—that will be pretty annoying if I am 31 and still have never been in love! But yeah, I’d like to be in a great place in both my personal life and my career. I still want to be doing what I love. Whatever that is in 10 years, I don’t know.
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The headline says “Now For the Very First Time Rihanna Tells Her Story.” You have to read the tag lines carefully, it says Rihanna will tell “her” story and not “her side” of the story. What does that mean; that could mean anything. Not once did it say Rihanna will talk about that awful night with ex-boyfriend Chris Brown. I am definitely going to watch just to see what she will say, but I have to tell you I have a “suspect” feeling, that this is more of an interview about her music career, and not about her “private” life.
We will all tune in, only to find out that legally due to the plea deal Rihanna is not allowed to discuss the merits of the case. Something also tells me that she will admit that she still has feelings for Chris Brown, and that the night of the assualt changed her and shaped her new album. That’s the PR spin in me talking….