Toya Carter Sick Of Being Called “Wayne’s Baby Mama”
Antonia “Toya” Carter has written a book, Priceless Inspiration; is starring in her own reality series, Toya’s Family Affair; and is engaged to a new man, Memphitz; yet people keep calling her “Wayne’s Baby Mama”. In an interview with VIBE, Toya Carter talks about how the labeling affects her as a woman, and why it’s so hard to shake the labeling. She even goes as far as to say she’s sick of Lil Wayne’s name.
People feel like I’m going to always be connected to Wayne because that’s how I was introduced into the spotlight, but I feel like I’m much more than just his baby mama. It’s just crazy because everything I try to better myself it’s always “That’s just Wayne’s baby mama.”
Read excerpts from the interview when you continue…
VIBE: Your new book Priceless Inspiration is part memoire part motivational. What made you want to put your story out there?
…After seeing how much I’ve grown since being a 14-year-old pregnant girl going through all of this different stuff with family, relationships, watching people I loved get hooked on drugs, domestic violence, I’d already written it down in my diary and looking back at it it inspired me to write a book. Priceless Inspiration is dedicated to those young girls whose parents try to lead them the right way and they don’t listen, so maybe hearing it from one of their peers or someone they may look up to will help.
What was the toughest experience for you to write about?
I talk about my previous relationship [with Lil Wayne a little bit, but not in a tell-all way. I talk about things that I’ve learned from that situation and how I was looking at it at that age. When I was 14 I tried to make someone be what I wanted them to be not knowing that they had to grow up and what I was expecting out of a relationship with someone that was in the public eye and me raising my daughter and the help I wanted from them…
Was it difficult because you don’t want to keep connecting yourself to Wayne?
That situation is so hard. People feel like I’m going to always be connected to Wayne because that’s how I was introduced into the spotlight, but I feel like I’m much more than just his baby mama. It’s just crazy because everything I try to better myself it’s always “That’s just Wayne’s baby mama.” I open my store and people come to the store and it’s “That’s Wayne’s baby mama’s store” or I do my own show and it’s “Wayne’s baby mama got her own show now” or I write a book and it’s “Oh it’s a tell-all about Wayne,” so I feel like I can’t dodge that situation. I can see if I was sitting around waiting for Wayne to make things happen for me, but I’m making things happen for myself and I still get that stereotype. But I won’t let that stop me from doing me, but it does bother me sometimes because I can’t help who I fell in love with and had a kid by.
I feel that. Is that the reason why you refer to Wayne as Dream in the book?
Yeah I tried to avoid his name period because I’m just sick of it, but that’s my life and my book is about my life, but I was just like I don’t want to say his name. When I first started writing everybody had a different name for privacy purposes, but then I thought about it and put my real family members’ names back in becaue of the reality show, but I just didn’t want to put Wayne’s name in it. He supports the book 100% though and he did the forward for me.
- Lil’ Wayne’s Baby Mama Speaks Out Against Daughter’s Performance!
- Good News: Antonia “Toya” Carter Got Married; Bad News: Nivea Got Arrested For A DUI
- Photos Of Toya & James Hardy