Rihanna Talks About The Assault, Finding Happiness Again, Why She Loves ‘The Way You Lie’
Rihanna is a happier and stronger person today than she was two years ago, and she’s finally opening up and moving on from the assault she encountered at the hands of ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown. In the December Issue of Marie Claire UK, the beautiful pop star admits to crying many nights, and finally having an epiphany serving as her wake up call:
‘I was very lost. I have to say I felt really confused. It was really strange because…’ Her eyes begin to well up then she scolds herself for being upset. ‘Aaagh!’ she exclaims outloud. ‘I hate talking about it but it was really crazy because I felt so out of touch with myself and when that happens…’ It’s just this one empty vase. I felt like an empty vessel.’ Tears fall down her face but she tells me it’s alright. ‘I’m just… I feel like… I smile for real this time. ‘Eventually, I remember waking up one day and I knew I was over it. One day. I remember I was in New York at the Trump Hotel and I woke up and I just knew I was over it.
As you can see from the quote, you never get over domestic abuse–it stays with you, you just learn to transform the negative thoughts and move on. Rihanna also opens up about dealing with the media, rumors, and the negative comments regarding her assault:
God has a crazy way of working, and sometimes when stuff happens you feel like, “What did I do to deserve this?” Why was it backfiring on me?’ I was very lost. I have to say I felt really confused. I hate talking about it but it was really crazy because I felt so out of touch with myself and when that happens.’ All this terrible stuff they say to you, it breaks you down,’ she says of that time. ‘[But] once you’re back on your feet – if you ever make it back on your feet – that’s the ultimate achievement.
Rihanna also reveals why she decide to do the controversial song, The Way You Lie, with Eminem. Many critics feel the songs glorifies domestic violence, but Rihanna has this to say about it:
‘He [Eminem] confronted himself on it. He basically gives insight into what goes on in the mind of a couple in a domestically violent relationship. I love that in every verse it just gets to that point where she wants to leave, she wants to leave, she leaves, she leaves, she leaves… but then the hook always comes back’…’Every word in that song is true. It would take somebody who’s been on the inside to understand how magical those lyrics are. Everybody loves the song but the lyrics can never hit home until you’ve seen it, witnessed it, in your home or experienced it yourself.’
Rihanna is back on her feet, and in a more healthy relationship with baseball star Matt Kemp.
‘I feel like I smile for real this time. The smiles come from inside, and it exudes in everything I do. ‘People feel my energy is different. When I smile they can tell that it’s pure bliss and not just a cover up.’
The more she shares about her personal life, the more I like her. It does NOT change my mind about the music or the singing, but it makes her insides seem just as beautiful as her outsides.