I did not want to express my true feelings about Fantasia and Antwun Cook while she was in the hospital recovering from an attempted “suicide”, but now that she has TV cameras all in the mix, recording her experience; I guess it’s open-season. I’ve just received an e-mail from Radar Online suggesting, Fantasia overdosed on sleeping pills not because of the law suit filed by Paula Cook, Antwun’s wife, but because she wants Antwun to choose her over his wife. The reason she met with him one day after her suicide attempt was not to end things, but to secure her future with Antwun, while filming it all for her reality series. Fantasia knew Antwun was a married man with kids, don’t let her try to re-write the script, or blame Antwun or his wife. She can cover up the tattoo all she wants, but that won’t make this picture go away.
I am tired of writing on women like Alicia Keys who want a man so bad, that they are willing to help the man cheat or break-up his marriage. I know some of you say, “then stop writing about it.” I don’t just do this blog for me. If my readers want to discuss it, then when are going to discuss it.
I also get several comments suggesting that “a woman can’t break-up a happy home“. My response is, a man can’t cheat alone, or in other words it takes two to cheat. If you are sleeping with a married man, you are disrespecting yourself, and you are disrespecting his wife. If the word cheat or creeping describes your relationship to a married man, then you are in the wrong. I have never dated a married man, but I also know what it feels like to date someone involved with someone else. It’s wrong [PERIOD], and in the end everyone gets hurt.
I am tired of people saying “stay out of celebrities private lives.” First off the celebrities need to stop sending me and other blogs press releases about their relationships. If you want it private keep it private. Secondly, if the celebrity wants to sell their art for free, then I will stay out of their lives, but as long as my money is helping them to cheat, then I am going to have an opinion. I am also going to save my dollar for an artist who respect marriages, or realizes the consequences of their actions. Breaking up marriages may not be your thing so you can continue to support Alicia Keys, Fantasia, and Gabrielle Union, and that’s fine for you; it’s just doesn’t feel right for me. Maybe if they were exceptional at their art then I would have a change of heart, but I can live without seeing another movie from Gabrielle Union, and I can live without hearing another song from Alicia Keys.
Lastly, saying if something is right or wrong is not passing judgment. I have no power to sentence Fantasia, I can’t take her salvation away, and I can’t throw a stone at her head, even if I wanted to. Having an opinion on a subject is not passing judgment. We all sin, and we all know when we are sinning, and so does everyone else around us. It’s fine to tell someone, even your closest friends, that their actions are out of line. If my best friend was dating a married man, I would tell her she’s WRONG. I certainly wouldn’t lend her any money for a hotel key. That doesn’t mean I want to condemn her, that just means I need to tell her the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts, and sometimes we all need to hear it.
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Comment made on 08/17/2010 @ 10:24
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Aman Sistah! Preach!
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MrsGrapevine 2 Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 11:58
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@blog.josefhudson.com,
lol you are so crazy
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Kimora Cochran
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*Mrs. Grapevine drops the mic and calmly walks off stage*
ROUND OF APPLAUSE!
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resurrected
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I hate when people say that you can not destroy a happy home first off the other woman could care less if he is happy at home or not because if this was true there would be no other woman. Secondly how do you know the truth other then the words that have been spoken to you? Thirdly you can give negative attention to things and situation making the worst off then before. And finally it is not like you are giving the married couple any time to work out there issues because all people in life has issues not just married people.
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MrsGrapevine 2 Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 12:06
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@resurrected,
That man may be telling his wife that he is happy. He maybe happy to a certain extent, and just using the other woman. If he’s truly not happy at home, then he should handle his business accordingly and before pursuing other women.
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regina
Comment made on 08/17/2010 @ 11:04
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Sorry, i will not be part of the Amen choir you gonna get on this, especially abt them losing their careers. that’s stupid. If they worked at the post office, they should get fired? Why then do rappers that commit felonies get to resume their careers? Men can committ actual crimes. Come back & sell millions, a woman makes a non criminal mistake & they should lose their livelihood. And they say America is much better than the middle east. Don’t buy their products, that’s everyone’s choice but I like Alicia & Fan’s music & Gabrielle’s acting so I am still on board. And also is this career loss only for black stars. What about Tori Spelling, LeAnn Rhimes, Angelina, etc. & all the males that cheat. What about Swizz, he isn’t losing work. Double standards & hypocrisy.
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August 17th, 2010 at 11:38
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@regina,
Where did I say they should lose their careers. I said they shouldn’t expect “me” to want to support them or their actions. I said it’s ok, if you want to buy an album, but as for me, I want them to get their business in order first, before I give them another dime. Gabrielle and Alicia Keys are no longer seeing married men, but Fantasia is.
I don’t even understand where black and white come into the equation. Read my past posts about mainstream media vs. black blogs. I bet you I won’t pay to watch another Mel Gibson movie. At no pint have I said it’s ok for Tori or LeAnn, or Angelina.
No you didn’t bring up Swizz, in my opinion he does deserves a backlash. It’s clear what I think of his actions.
Some things don’t bother one person, and some things do. Somethings don’t affect your purchases and some things do.
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regina Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 15:57
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@MrsGrapevine 2, well, abt Mel Gibson, I never paid for his products in the first place so if u aren’t a fan .. then it doesn’t matter. You put something out for interpretation. I interpreted your comments as you would be fine if they didn’t have any more product, not that you personally wouldn’t buy anymore product from them. If that’s what you meant, then fine. I will concede that point. I maintain that this is gone overboard..especially since the women are getting the blunt of backlash & they weren’t the married party(not saying they aren’t wrong). I just don’t understand why this ‘crime’ is so prosecutable and other real crimes are. Not speaking about you specifically. Maybe if this level of outrange came w/ black male celebs making babies with multiple women, some in the same year & people stop supporting them & also making excuses for them when the commit crimes.. I would like ok, it’s a level playing field, all wrong is wrong but this adultery thing is tripping me out. I don’t mind the dialogue & I will apologize for use of the word ‘stupid’ earlier. But I just see it as these women, black or white are just mirroring society.. for what it’s worth..with all the attn the Alicia story has gotten for 2 years(yes mainly on black blogs), you would think that she was the first woman in history to be with a married man.
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regina Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 16:00
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@regina, typo correction: should be other crimes ‘aren’t. Also, I fully expect to be in the minority on my opinion in this matter but I am ok with that.
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August 17th, 2010 at 18:05
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@regina,
The reason Alicia Keys gets it more is because she’s more famous than Swizz, she had an album she promoted through Perez Hilton (mainstream media) and bypassed black friendly press, her message of positivity contradicts her actions, it’s been going on for over 2 years, and the fact that mainstream media acts like it never happened, but pounces on people like Fantasia and Angelina Jolie when it does.
I do think the men are at fault because they are orchestrating the lies and deceit. I will talk about a man who has babies by several different women. I am an equal opportunity opinionator. lol
I have moved on regarding Alicia Keys because all of it is in the past. She is now married to her husband, and is expecting a child. Hopefully fate will treat her better.
Alicia Keys is not first and won’t be the last, and she will also act like it never happened.
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regina Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 18:43
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@MrsGrapevine 2, some of my opinions were not directed soley by your comments. I have read people wishing death to Alicia & her unborn child. That’s the kind of level of outrage that has thrown me for a loop. I respect everyone’s right to feel the way they want. There are celebs that I have my reasons for not liking them. Just stating my opinion on the adultery thing but I think we both have valid points & I will leave it at that.
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MrsGrapevine 2 Reply:
August 18th, 2010 at 16:31
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@regina,
I know they weren’t all directed at me, and I appreciate your point of view. It reminds me that people we are discussing are still human.
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regina Reply:
August 18th, 2010 at 16:42
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@regina, Cool, an open minded blogger. how refreshing. you have a new fan of your sight, just can’t a lot of negativity from posters though.
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resurrected
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It feels like we are being bamboozled. I have to get over my feeling of cheating spouses to see the real fact they this mess does seem planned. What married man goes on TV or a reality show to admit that he is having an affair? It like all people see is money and sex these days no matter who or what they might be destroying.
I am not sure what think about the wife but I do not think that she is in on it and plus she has not made any statement to the public on a public network. What it does say to me is that the media is a tool to buy that stories are not accurate and if you have money then your reputation can be saved for the right price.
Another thing to think about is why is the world and the media starting to paint the picture that being a home wrecker and the cheater is ok. What do they gain from this perception, what product are they trying to sale, why are they trying to destroy the image of marriage or just have some self-respect towards one self and others. We follow and chase these stories for what when ultimately only destroys our emotional state and image towards each other a people and human beings. This mess right here causes so much division and hurt along without the media input.
Now Fannie is all happy and ready to fight harder for a man that does not belong to her. I wonder what is her family saying to her right now and what is she saying to her daughter as well. This kind of mess makes me now want to indulge my time and money in people who act reckless like this why should we reward them when it is obvious that she has not concern for the people that she is hurting talking she is story for any pain that she might has causes that is a bold face lie.
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MrsGrapevine 2 Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 11:48
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@resurrected,
I don’t know. I think because so many marriages are ending in divorce, the culture is changing to why be married?
Marriage is not valued like it use to be, and that’s scary.
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August 17th, 2010 at 12:08
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@MrsGrapevine 2,
It not the marriage that does not make it valid it is the people that are in the marriage. I know that it is rare but I still see some married couple who are happy where neither the husband nor the wife cheats I think it has way more to do with morals and upbringing then anything. I lot of people are running around with whore for mothers and daddies who was never there in the first place. It like there children are the last priority and the world is one big smorish board.
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STEFANY
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Either way Fantasia is still a trifling, ignorant, hood bytch. And if she’s doing this for publicity that’s even worse. And whether Antwun was seperated or unhappy the point is he was still married at the time she had a sexual relationship with him..Seperated or unhappy does not mean DIVORCED! And NO, a man doesn’t have to be unhappy in his marriage to cheat, sometimes it’s his ego, or the idea that he can sleep with a celebrity or someone he’s see’s as an opportuniny for his own personal gain..When I first saw pictures of Antwun I knew he was using her illiterate ass, Fantasia does not look like his type, and sadly she’s too dumb to know the difference. I hope this entire situation backfires on Fantasia and ends her career.
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August 18th, 2010 at 08:00
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@STEFANY, PREACH,TABERNACLE,CHURCH….!!! I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU AND MRS.GRAPEVINE. All these homewreckers whether its a celebrity or not, has no real core values! The women who purposley get involved with these married men are always going to justify their nasty behavior to save face. I will always believe” You reap, what you sew”. So in due time we will all see how their nonchalant attitude towards committed relationships….backfire on them!
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August 18th, 2010 at 16:32
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@STEFANY,
We did an article on why men cheat, and every man had a different answer. Some was a simple as because I can.
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STEFANY
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MRS GRAPEVINE,
This is your blog, you’re free to talk about what ever you want, coming on a blog is a choice. If a celebrity does something stupid they deserve to get put on blast.. If Alicia Keys is singing about being a “Super Woman” and uplifting women while sleeping with a married man she needs to be exposed because that’s being a hypocrite. If a situation needs to be addressed than blog about it, I see nothing wrong with that.
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August 18th, 2010 at 08:05
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@STEFANY, TRUE…TRUE!
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nicolefromphilly
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Paula! Could be grateful that tasia is with her soon to be ex-husband.
He will be someone else headache.
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August 18th, 2010 at 16:33
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@nicolefromphilly,
I bet she’s grateful now.It’s sad that the wives are left picking up the pieces and raising the kids.
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MsTrendy
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MsGrapevine it is very obvious that your are a wifey because all the women saying you can’t break up a happy home are the jumpoff broads. I’m the wifey type and I to are tired of writing about these types of women. I want Antwaun to go back to his wife to left these jumpoff know things won’t go there way.
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August 18th, 2010 at 08:08
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@MsTrendy, SO CLASSY!! Us real women defnly recognize the real from the fake! And im tired of tryn to save the hoers that justify this behavior too!! lol
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LaKeshia @ Kreative Talk
Comment made on 08/18/2010 @ 06:41
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Mrs. Grapevine, I totally agree with you about not supporting people who do not have their lives together. Fantasia is clearly seeking attention/publicity to keep her livlihood. She is extremely wrong for dating a married man. The woman is just as much as the blame as the man…it takes two. All of the women who were/is dating married men before the divorce was final is the blame. I hate when people alter a situation to make it right for the time being. It is wrong…it was wrong before the divorce and now that he isn’t married, where does that leave you? Is he all of a sudden this born again great husband…NO! He is still the same man that cheated on his wife to be with you…what does that say about how he may in turn do to you.
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August 18th, 2010 at 08:09
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@LaKeshia @ Kreative Talk, So right!
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August 18th, 2010 at 16:30
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@LaKeshia @ Kreative Talk,
Like the old saying goes, “you lie down with dogs you get up with fleas”
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BRANDI
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sad sad sad, it amazes me how people can be so judegemental regarding issues that no one knows the complete truth about, yes he was married,but divorces take time expecially when children are involved. yes a marriage should be cherished, ok. but why is it so easy to blame the woman, yes she should have walked away, but who are we to say they werent separated and had not been for some time. truth is he should be held liable for breaking up the relationship not fantasia, he was the one married not fantasia, he was the one who took vows to love honor and cherish his wife, not fantasia but she gets the backlash, its really stupid, and so what if alicia did marry swizz truth is he was married when they began dating he was married when she got pregnant, and she also was aware of his marriage, but now she gets a pass because she married him now, please, wrong is wrong, no matter how you look at it, gabriel is still with wade even though he is just now in final stages of divorce, i feel as though it is really not right to wish someones lively hood be demolished because of human nature, everyone makes mistakes and everyone makes choices that not everyone will agree with , but bottom line you should hold the person who is suppose to be faithful to you responsible for their actions , your right no one can cheat alone, but in order for someone to cheat there has to be a common interest and everyone involved has to take that step to decide whether or not they will make that choice, and to call her dumb and stupid, well i can guess your not the smartest of the arena either,you dont know her nor do you know what they intentions of the relationship was. society is so quick to judge without knowing full details and they run off at the mouth like computer thugs with all these opinions. its fine to feel the way yall do , but at the same time look into your own lives before you point a finger because even though your pointing a finger at her there are four more pointing at you.
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August 18th, 2010 at 16:28
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@BRANDI,
1) You don’t have to take vows to know if something is wrong or right.
2) Fantasia has been caught in a string of lies regarding this relationship. She is the one releasing pictures and statements about her relationship. And she is the one filming it for a reality show.
3)Everyone has done something wrong, and there are always consequences for their actions. Fantasia is a public figure, and now she’s dealing with public opinion.
4) Even if you don’t have respect for the other woman, have respect for yourself. No one deserves a piece of a man. Women are worth so much more.
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STEFANY
Comment made on 08/18/2010 @ 12:56
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Both parties are equally to blame when an affair takes place. It doesn’t matter who the married person is, if you are a willing participant in an affair and you know that man/woman is married you are just as guilty. Antwun is no saint in this situation but Fantasia has more to lose, and she has a reputation to protect. This guy is a nobody he can mess up her career and go back to his regular life and nobody will care. That’s why you should never get involved with a person who is only seperated, because you don’t what the situation is at home with that person’s spouse. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out Antwun is an opportunist and that he’s using Fantasia, and yes she’s STUPID for playing right along.
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August 18th, 2010 at 16:35
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@STEFANY,
Fantasia career was already on the line, so yes she is the one that has so much to lose. NeNe Leakes said it best, “close your legs to married men”.
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ke ke
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I do believe you can’t cheat alone but fan and alicia owes these women nothing these men need to be held accountable for their own actions. As women we know many men lie to get what it is they want so we don’t know what they could have been feeding them. Only that man can make are break his vows so why should he get the pass why she receive the lash out. If he was willing to step away their relationship wasn’t that solid. they have to just realize that if he did it to his wife he to will do it to you. Chalk it up to life lesson.
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