PART I:  All Men Cheat. Expect and Accept It

A friend of mine that I used to date off-and-on for several years, asked me to marry him. Well, kind of. He’s been in the music industry for about 20 years now and he has seen and probably done it all.  So he says to me, “There’s a reason you and I have known each other for 10 years. We can be married by next year if you can grow up and just accept that from time to time I’ll have a little bit of fun on the side. But just remember, I’ll be coming home to you.”  Not his exact words, but almost verbatim.  So, I’m thinking, really?  Aww, I feel really special! Can I really be your wife? Do you promise?  Come on.

Actually, after laughing what people close to me call my “machine gun” laugh (the kind of laughter where your entire body shakes and you could possibly be having an epileptic seizure), I said, “maybe in another life, when honesty and loyalty mean absolutely nothing to me.”

It’s great that we can both laugh about it. Because he has been so up front over the years, we’ve been able to remain friends.  Do you know why? He gave me a choice.  He told me what it is, and I opted out. My problem is when men want to keep their partners, lie, cheat and then sometimes turn it on women and our “obvious lack of understanding” about how they operate.

Should you expect your man to cheat? Maybe. Continue Reading →