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Just Got A Man – by Sharron Todd

Posted by on Mar 19, 2010 in Relationships, Sharron Todd | 10 comments

Just Got A Man:

“Now , How Do I Keep Him?!”

Shr Tdd1 Just Got A Man   by Sharron ToddYou know how some people say that “there are no bad questions except the ones you don’t ask.” They’re wrong. This is a bad question.  There’s something overly self-deprecating, if not desperate, about this question.  Better questions: How do you keep it interesting?  How do you two create a healthy relationship?

If you’re constantly having to tap dance in order to keep his attention, you might have a problem.  Reinventing the relationship years down the road to keep it fresh is alright.  Running around acting like he’s your last shot at a good life…well, that’ll make you tired.  And if anything, it’ll be obvious to him.  If you’re being anything but YOURSELF when you’re in a relationship, the real you will eventually be exposed.

Now, am I saying to walk into a relationship screaming “This is me, hear me roar?!” Not at all. That’ll get you left too.

Ultimately, being with someone is a CHOICE. Your choice and his choice.  You can stay or you can  leave.  If you’re crying out (even internally), “Please don’t leave me! You’re the best I’ll ever do!”  or “I’ll never meet anyone else,” I honestly don’t think you’re ready to be in a relationship, much less a healthy one.

Several years back, I was dating this painter.  Mind you, I don’t have a clue about painting or art. But he was passionate about art. I mean REALLY passionate.  He kept dropping names of artists throughout the centuries and I would nod my head as if I knew who in the world he was talking about. I found myself at work googling artwork and artists so that I could seem more “refined” in conversations with him about the subject.  I didn’t have time to be doing all that! I was working crazy corporate hours. And honestly, it was wearing me out.

I was so busy googling and pretending, that I didn’t even take the time to realize that we had absolutely nothing in common except our first mutual attraction and our pseudo conversations on art. So, I found the audacity to break up with him because I was feeling silly (and because he was a little too “passionate”).   At the end of the day, it would’ve just been nice to learn about art from him.  None of us will ever come to the table knowing everything about everything. We won’t EVER be every single thing that another person wants us to be.  It’s just so much easier and less dramatic just to be yourself. What’s even more ironic, your partner is most likely looking for you to be you as well. If not, he or she should be.

You know how men talk about them feeling “tricked” into dating a woman? Whether she played it too cool in the beginning or acted like certain things didn’t bother her? Well, purposely “liking” the things that he likes, doing things the way he likes them done and not showing more of YOU is a bad recipe for a relationship.

What do you think? How do we draw the line between compromising and compromising ourselves?

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New Real Housewife Of Atlanta Is Phaedra Parks – An Entertainment Lawyer?

Posted by on Mar 19, 2010 in Celebrity Drama, Celebrity News, TV Shows | 6 comments

 New Real Housewife Of Atlanta Is Phaedra Parks   An Entertainment Lawyer? My inbox is full today. I just received an e-mail saying that the new RHOA cast mate is Phaedra Parks. Phaedra Parks is an entertainment lawyer in Atlanta, and is married to Apollo Nida:

So you heard the other day that Kim told of the new Housewife..Well I know for a fact from Phaedra Parks husband Apollo Nida that both of them will be on the show. She is the new Housewife of Atlanta.  She was pregnent when they got married Nov. 1, 09 and thats why the marriage was rushed.  So you will see her with baby bump and all. She just now told people/twitter of the new as if it was new.  When in fact she got knock up mths before the wedding.  They married for business reasons only.  Not for love like she stated in a post back in Feb. trying to clean up all the drama about Apollo and his jail time.  Anyway, Parks & hubby are in Miami now along with other Housewife’s.  This should show you who is the new housewife (she is Maimi with the others promoting on the low).

[Source: Sara Parker]

Of course I did some digging of my own, and according to Sandra Rose there is already drama involving Phaedra Parks and her husband Apollo Nida, by drama I mean legal problems:

Phaedra’s husband, Apollo Nida, along with five other men, were charged with 20 counts of alleged violation of the Georgia Racketeer Influenced and Corrupt Organizations (RICO) Act and multiple counts of theft by receiving stolen vehicles. {Read the rest and check out his mugshot}

Phaedra Parks Apollo Nida Real Housewife Atlanta RHOA New Real Housewife Of Atlanta Is Phaedra Parks   An Entertainment Lawyer?

[Photo Credit: ATLien]

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Chris Brown Stans Mad At Breezy Gay Humor On UStream

Posted by on Mar 19, 2010 in Celebrity News | 77 comments

Chris Brown In Airport 200x300 Chris Brown Stans Mad At Breezy Gay Humor On UStreamChris Brown made fans mad last night, so mad that I received two long letters detailing how devoted fans were upset that Chris Brown did not take any questions from them on Ustream last night, and they described his live feed as vulgar, degrading, and offensive to gays.

Apparently Polow Da Don, made some homophobic comments, and Chris Brown laughed instead of denouncing them. I’m not going to post the whole letter, but it’s certainly worth a read: (Rihanna is this you…lol)

Last night i and three friends, two chicks and one gay male friend were excited to see our favorite singer Chris Brown on Ustream. He had basically begged his fans to help him get to 100,000 followers on twitter and as a reward he would talk to us on Ustream.

Does sitting in front of a camera not acknowledging any question or statement any of the 50k + fans were asking seem fair? The live show that was no longer than 15 minutes was the most upsetting, disgusting thing i have ever witnessed.

We support you, we buy your albums, WE bought you that House, WE helped you rent those nice sport cars your seen in. Not only Chris but when will rude, selfish, arrogant celebrities realize that with out US they’re is NO YOU!!!

As a black young women i am offended!!!! Even after what happened with Rihanna we all (fans) worked hard to continue to support you and all we get the damn silent treatment. Thas all we get back??? The fact that you went and read to a few third graders in Brooklyn wont save your career.

You boldly ignored us and the fact of the matter is the majority of your remaining fans are GAY. You just LOST that. So forget about releasing that as you put it “gay friendly Club Song”. IN  a year in a half you lost most of your followers, tons of support from the urban community and BLACK WOMEN! But you want us to sit and buy your album??????? Really?

[From an ex-fan Shannon in Atlanta]

That was just an excerpts from the first letter, keep reading to see what other Chris Brown fans had to say:

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