An old college associate writes for Examiner, and she wrote on interesting post entitled, Prejudices In Beauty and In Dating. It’s an article that discusses interracial dating, and what different races view as “Black Beauty”. In the article she suggests that White, Asian, and Hispanic men are more likely to compliment a dark-skinned woman on her beauty before a black man would. The statement took me back because I am a dark-skinned woman, or at the least a non-light-skinned woman, but I disagree with that assessment. As I kept reading, I came across this statement, and it just stuck out like a sore thumb:
Here in the south, if you are a woman of darker complexion, you have to be extremely confident in yourself, because you may seldom get praise regarding your beauty, especially but sadly, not from other men within your race. As a dark-skinned woman in San Antonio you will get more recognition and appreciation for your beauty from a Hispanic, White or Asian man before you would a Black man.
A friend of mine said that being a dark skinned African American woman, she would seldom be approached in clubs by black men, but her friend of a lighter complexion would be surrounded by them. She also said that if a Black man notices a white, Asian, mixed-race, light-skinned or Hispanic woman, he would approach them before he would her. Many men she’d encountered would date a light-skinned woman who was out of shape over a dark-skinned woman who was slim.
Is this a person who’s attracted to men that are not black, and is more aware of compliments when it comes from other races? Or…is this statement reflective of what most dark-skin women think?
When you finished reading this, please check out Necole Bitchie, she has an interesting post on interracial regarding Angela Simmons.
Yeah
Comment made on 11/22/2009 @ 6:30 AM
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floetry
Comment made on 12/19/2009 @ 3:22 PM
this is sad but what he’s saying is true. it’s nothing to do with self-hatred or anything but just sheer reality. i’ve heard from black men myself (not just 2 or 3 black men) that they prefer lighter skin women, its just something they see as more beautiful.
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Afrikka Roddick
Comment made on 01/13/2010 @ 11:40 PM
It’s ALL true! I am a dark-skinned woman and I can’t even count how many times I’ve heard that! I’ve been hearing that since I was in jr.high school and I’m 27!! At 17 yrs. old I heard “Maybe if you were light(er).” when I asked an (ex) friend if he liked me. Trust, it has absolutely nothing to do with self hate or wanting other races or anything. I’ve been literally been pushed to the side for my white/light-skinned friends. We haven’t matured yet, after all this damn time….
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Jasmine
Comment made on 01/30/2010 @ 12:27 AM
Don’t worry girls, it’s happened to me, too. I know that I’m a pretty Dark-skinned black woman. Just change your preference and don’t worry about theirs. I’m engaged to a wonderful, loving hispanic man. Give them time- then when they want us it’ll be too late and we won’t want them anymore. :)
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