I have to try to take myself out of the mind set of Kesha Ni’Cole Nichols. It didn’t happen to me, so why am I so angry. I’m angry because Jefferson didn’t have the balls to break-up with his fiance in person, he had the audacity to send her an e-mail just hours before the ceremony. I’m sure she had her hair and nails done, and all her friends around her, just waiting to put on her dress. Now I don’t condone murder like in the Steve McNair case, that’s just wrong, but I probably would have thrown some marbles, ice cubes, and banana peels along his path, just hoping he would break an ankle or two. Anyway Jefferson has something to say about the matter.
In an interview with New York Post where he appeared choked up, Jefferson explained why he made the decision to break it off:
There was a lot of stress and tension in the relationship. We’ve been through a lot — but we just couldn’t continue.
But at least Nichols got a nice parting gift — Jefferson, who was traded from the Milwaukee Bucks to the San Antonio Spurs last month, said he’s giving her a “six-figure” settlement so she can start a new life.
“I won’t say a negative word about Kesha. She is one of my best friends,” said Jefferson, who courted for nearly five years.
He said things came to a head when they celebrated July 4 in LA, a week before their planned July 11 wedding at the luxurious Mandarin Oriental on Columbus Circle.
After Nichols boarded a plane back to New York the next day, Jefferson said, he sent her the devastating e-mail.
“Sometimes you might write an e-mail to get your thoughts down right,” he explained.
After Nichols — and the message — arrived in New York, the couple spoke by phone for two hours, Jefferson said.
“It was a conversation Kesha and I had,” he said, adding only that it was “a combination of things” that led to the split.
Jefferson said they haven’t spoken in a week.
“It’s been an emotional time for both of us,” he said. “I know she’s hurt. I’m hurt, too.”
Of the money he’s giving Nichols, Jefferson said, “I’m not trying to buy her off. She has a lump sum to help her move on.”
He added, “I’ve made my mistakes in this relationship, 100 percent. But at the end of the day, there were some people who were responsible for the demise of it.”
He insisted a rumor he’s gay had nothing to do with the breakup.
“I’m not gay,” Jefferson said. “That couldn’t be any further from the truth. I have nothing to hide.”
Because some out-of-town guests were already in, or en route to, New York, they decided to go through with a dinner that was supposed to have been part of the wedding celebration, Jefferson said.
The jilted bride, a former Net dancer, checked into the Mandarin and spent what would have been her wedding night in a luxury suite. A fellow dancer pal of Kesha, Keltie Colleen, wrote on her blog that Nichols was “going through some serious grief.”
None of Jefferson’s family made the trip. “My family didn’t take this well. I’m the last one not to have married,” said Jefferson, the son of Christian missionaries. “My family was looking forward to me starting a family of my own.” Jefferson flew to Paris last week with some basketball buddies. He went “only because I care about her so much that I didn’t want to change my mind after those emails were sent,” he said. “I didn’t want to start missing her and decide, ‘let’s do this.”‘ “It’s so crazy, the divorce rate out there,” Jefferson added. “If you aren’t 100 percent certain about something, you shouldn’t do it.”
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Max Reddick
Comment made on 07/16/2009 @ 9:59 AM
Brother was wrong, no doubt. After a five year relationship? An email was the wrong way of going about things. He should have manned up and done it face to face. If this is how he handles his business, she is probably better off in the long run.
But in the same instance, he did do it. He could have gone through with it, then spent the off season engaged in some ol’ Steve McNair, chick[s] on the side foolishness.
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EarthWindFire82
Comment made on 07/16/2009 @ 10:09 AM
If you really loved her and spent five years with her, you should have looked her in the eye and said that you couldn’t go through with it. Things “came to a head July 4th”, which meant that there were issues beforehand…so they should’ve postponed it earlier. He then flew off to Paris with his buddies…yeah, I call BS on the whole deal. She probably won’t say anything since she got that six figure bribe though.
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MrsGrapevine
Comment made on 07/16/2009 @ 10:19 AM
@ Max Reddick:
I am trying to figure out, if I can give him credit for at least breaking it off before the marriage.
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MrsGrapevine
Comment made on 07/16/2009 @ 10:20 AM
@ EarthWindFire:
He gave her that bribe because he knew she would file a suit. I’m sure she can win that civil suit. He’s just PR Stuntin’ trying to clear his name.
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News Revolver
Comment made on 07/16/2009 @ 3:20 PM
What would compell him to do something so low? I couldn’t begin to imagine how devastated she must’ve been reading an e-mail about breaking up shortly before she is to wed.
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Honestgirl24
Comment made on 07/20/2009 @ 1:46 PM
we really do not know what went wrong between this 2 people ,so nobody should judge this guys intensions. he do truely loved her thats why he sent her free even with a money to start up a new life .how many men do that after a break up `’?
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MRS LARKINS
Comment made on 07/21/2009 @ 1:16 PM
WOW!!! I’ve known Richard since he was a little boy! He is only human. I agree there could have been a better way of doing it, but sometimes we do things before we think! Thats too bad it had to turn out like this!
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ms jay
Comment made on 07/22/2009 @ 6:40 AM
1st of all this man did not bribe her & i’m so sick of ppl thinkin its ok 2 sue sum1 after d relationship did not work out. if he was regular joe and jus spent 5yrs with her than called it quits, “she wld walk away w/out a dime” so y d hell r ppl appaulding tht she got $2million for d very same thg that happens to ppl everyday. we need to wake up & stop placing blame bcuz d truth is we don’t knw wht their problems were and its thier bizness.
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